Remember the sand castle kickers of our youth? Sigh. They sometimes seem to be every where. The general nature of blogging and discussion boards often brings out the ego/critic that would normally bite it’s tongue because it hides behind a fake name and photo.
I am relatively new to the blogging world (as you can see… because this is my second post). But recently I stumbled into a discussion board that SHOCKED ME to the core with what was going on inside it’s cyber walls. That discussion board was merely Facebook’s scrabble application.
I know, it’s SCRABBLE, right? “What could possibly be so shocking about a scrabble discussion board?!!” is the thought probably crossing your mind right now. And a month ago I would have agreed. Since then I have discovered that blogs represent a microcosm of the world.
Within them you find egos battling for their claim to fame, and rationalizing their unethical behaviors with trickery, you witness innocent people being kicked around the moment they walk onto the scene with their naivete flag waving, and you find groups of people validating their beliefs together through verbal jabs and who then divide and conquer. FB Scrabble is just one of these microcosms.
In fact, there is a world of metaphor on the FB scrabble board; “The Wizard of Oz”, “Lord of the Flies”, and even “A brave New World” come to mind while you are immersed in it, as was I for about 48 hours. (Some say I am a glutton for punishment, I say I am curious and I seek answers until I am satisfied).
Personality tests call me and inspirer and a spontaneous- idealist. I believe that is me at my best, but these traits can only manifest themselves by me first upturning every stone, and that often upsets fundamentalists too (and I don’t just mean religious ones). Nor does it thrill those who only want to “evolve” only the way they see fit, and criticize every one who thinks differently. Which really, has nothing to do with evolution, and more to do with fascism, control, and fear; I believe.
So, back to FB Scrabble… There is a war going on between two “teams of thought” the “Purists” and the “Generators”. The “Purists” are those players who like to play with the rules of the game agreed upon, and prefer that both players restrain from using outside help or computer generated programs to spell out and/or place words for them. The “Generators” are those players that feel that use of generators is not only fine, but that insinuating someone is cheating by doing so deserves that person to be verbally flogged by the latter community.
While it may be a bit over the top to call out a cheater on FB scrabble, the truly horrible thing is that the players who are using generators to climb their way to the top of the rankings are defending one another with every tactic they can find. They claim to be moral, creative, non judgemental, they say “it’s only a game after all”, and purists need to grow up and get with times or play on a board in the privacy of their own homes, while at the same time they usually don’t admit to using a generator in the first place.
Meanwhile, mocking, name calling and shunning those that express upset for entering into a game with with a generated component, unbeknownst to them. Which is understandable. I mean, every one knows that entering a game with one set of rules only to have an opponent use help outside of those rules is by the very definition “cheating”. The point that I find here is people will do anything for their 15 minutes of unearned fame. Including debasing other people.
I had a wonderful group of FB scrabble players rescue me from the onslaught I received after standing up to the FBS bullies. Now I play every day with people that are kind, intelligent, hard working and believe that scrabble is not only a game, but represents the game of life. Which is all I wanted to do from the beginning; play, learn, and grow… win or lose. And what I’ve discovered is that groups of a feather flock together… these players took a while to find me fighting the good fight… to invite me into their circle… because they were busy PLAYING, LAUGHING, LOVING, AND CREATING in their day to day lives. They were too busy and fulfilled to hang around discussion boards full of negativity and destruction.
Those of us humans who refuse to create, but instead condemn those that do, are contributing to the de-evolution of our species. Hard work, discipline, curiosity, and creation while nurturing our communities are important keys to growth. Many times this means challenging the status quo. It’s overused, but it IS true that people were once mocked for believing the world to be round.
I urge you to support positive change, and to be apart of conversations in a contributive way. We mirror one another. Whenever I see someone attacking someone else… I listen. And I always hear them speaking to themselves. They are not truly criticizing the person of whom they know nothing about.
We are all mere humans. This means that the majority of us will look back at a time when we thought we were right, and we realize were mistaken. Because there is no “right” other than what is inside you. And it will eternally change as you do. So remaining humble in expressing your opinions of others will only serve you.
There are sandcastle kickers and dream stompers every where you look. But standing right next to them are countless healers and visionaries ready to support you and hold your hand in your journey as a contributive force in this world.
Walk right past the critics. Into the arms of the creators, risk takers and heretics. The benefits will be immense. I’ll be waiting there for you with open arms.
Cheers~ Meagan